21 DAYS TO FORGIVE EVERYONE FOR EVERYTHING
Now most of you are probably more in the know, than I was, about the author. I had no idea she was an Emmy award winner or New York Times bestseller. When I choose the titles to review for Hay House I always look at the book and what is about before the author. In this case, I didn’t even know who the author was.
All I knew when the list came to me was that I needed to read it! As much as I am a natural forgiver and work very hard on letting go; I also find myself angry at times. If I missed my own yoga practice, meditation or I just feel stressed and overwhelmed, I struggle to be centered and the outcome is that anger can take over and I want to get away from people; especially those who I feel I clash with.
Now, to be clear, I am not saying you need to forgive and be best friends with people who don’t suit your soul; but if you are thinking about them more than you should, then this book is for you and you need to forgive. This is me.
This book was written very comprehensively and each chapter takes forgiveness to a different place. From forgiving yourself, to tackling things (like judgment) which make forgiveness hard if not impossible, to forgiving our surroundings as well as people.
Each chapter is about the act of letting go for the sake of forgiveness. But it is not just a “read” it is also a very “applicable” book. It allows forgiveness to be taken to the next level by taking steps towards it through exercises but also questions.
One most of us can relate to: we can easily scapegoat our parents for our mistakes or emotional imbalance. Sure, parents are our guides as we grow up; but a lot of parents can only do so much; within their capability and their own awakening; so we cannot be angry with them; we have to really just forgive. Sure, relationships with parents are unique and some worse than others, but we are not forgiving them for them; rather for ourselves as we are growing and holding back to resentment keeps us back.
This book is very easy to read as well as being very soft; it is almost a nurturing journey through our own anger and resentment so that we can really turn the page.
There are a few things I am personally going through which need forgiveness. It is easy to have people push our buttons; gosh I have a list of at least five, but this book is helping me.
The book is written as a 21 days plan; to follow each single day, like a guided journal, but the beauty is that one can always go back to most relevant chapters and repeat the exercises long term so it is a great tool to have and also recommend to clients, if you are a life coach, health coach or in any industry that allows you to influence others positively.
There are some positive statements and quotes in the book and I picked one which I feel is so relevant to all; I see it so often and I would love to share it from page seventeen:
“At the core of all Judgments
there is the belief that things are not as they should be
as we want them to be or
as they we need them to be”